Connecting Mind and Body
“Neuroscience research shows that the only way we can change the way we feel is by becoming aware of our inner experience and learning to befriend what is going inside ourselves.”
-Bessel van der Kolk.
I am a warm, caring individual who ”takes you as I find you” when we meet. I have no agenda within sessions, only that I meet you right where you are and listen in a caring, empathetic and non judgmental way. I have a relaxed style of being and aim to make you feel safe and supported during our time together. I am passionate about working with people who desire change, and I love it when light bulb moments happen. Many of the issues I help people with are bereavement, self esteem, domestic violence, family issues, shame, anxiety, cancer diagnosis and support throughout treatment to end of life care, parents of the transgender community and general life ups and downs and stresses. I also love to help people find joy in their life again!
"My counselling sessions have helped me greatly to see things from a different angle. During this journey I have been on for the last few months I have learnt a lot about myself. I wish I had started sooner!”
"You are very perceptive and have picked up on a lot of the thoughts and feelings that I had. I have found the sessions to be of great help to me.”
“I want to write and thank you for your counselling sessions. Before I started the sessions, I was feeling extremely low due to a recent bereavement and financial pressures after been made redundant just before Covid hit and not securing a job for nearly 9 months and at a much lower pay than previously. It was so helpful to be able to talk with you and reflect upon my feelings, behavioural patterns, and habitual responses. I now feel that I am in a much better space and taken some positive actions around self-care and wellbeing.”
“I found Kirsty to be open, flexible and approachable.”
“Kirsty is obviously experienced in building rapport with someone she had never met before. Whilst we were unable to meet face to face due to COVID-19, my preference was to have telephone calls, rather than zoom meetings, and Kirsty accepted this. To help build rapport, at our initial meeting, Kirsty clarified her role and the limitations of her role, and the expectations of us both. She set the scene with emphasis on confidentiality and gave information on record keeping and the reporting of serious concerns of my mental wellbeing or illegal activity to others. She also stated that if at any stage I felt it wasn't working between us, I was not to hesitate mentioning that, and that other arrangements could be made. I found the sessions worthwhile as during the sessions, and the course of sessions, I was given the time and space to work through various issues or problems I was going through. Kristy practiced active listening and reflected back what I had said, checked if she had got it right, and crucially, how that made me feel. Kirsty allowed for a trusting relationship to develop between us, as she kept to her obligations and gave me no reason not to trust her. By providing a safe, non-judgmental and respectful environment I felt confident in being able to explore my emotions and how to tackle the issues and decisions I was facing with greater confidence and optimism”
Welcome to Spirit & Soul Counselling
Counselling can be a daunting process for many as it requires an openness, vulnerability and bravery by looking at yourself and examining thoughts, processes and behaviours. The counselling relationship is extremely important and it is through the gentle process of building that relationship within the ‘room’ whether it be face to face, online or telephone sessions that organic change and growth may be realised. Counselling isn’t a quick fix, it is a process that, over time with the right environment can facilitate changes that brought clients in search of therapy. In saying that, some clients come for a single session to work through a dilemma. No two counsellors are the same, or counselling style so take your time to get a feel for what and what style is right for you.
For more information on styles of therapy please see https://www.bacp.co.uk/about-therapy/types-of-therapy/
If you think my style of person centred (also known as talking therapy )is something that you may be interested in please contact me for a free no-obligation twenty minute chat. Sessions are held face to face in Falkirk or nationwide via video or phone call.
“It takes enormous trust and courage to allow yourself to remember.”
― Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score